My 13 year old is going through typical (at least I HOPE) stuff. We're really having to talk about smart mouthing, talking back, disrespect. He is such a smart kid - he's in advanced classes at school and has always made good grades. He's funny, too. But for whatever reason, I think he hates me right now. I'm not the "friend" type mom. I want respect. I EXPECT respect. Believe me - when I was growing up, I would never talk to my mom the way kids talk to their parents these days. For surely if I did, it would be the back of a hand on my face, or groundings where I didn't have things for MONTHS...I'm not talking a week or two...or not even until the next report card. I mean MONTHS. 6 months at a time. I KNEW to behave and respect. Which, don't get me wrong...I am NOT that kind of mom. I don't agree with that extreme, but I do agree with being the PARENT - not so much friend. So, anyway...we're dealing with that. I can't help but feel like there's some type of outside influence, be it another kid, or "friend," that causing some of this uprising (for lack of a better word), some kind of stress that he won't talk about...I don't know. Being a parent is hard. Really, really hard. Somedays, it's harder than others.
The other one, 7, is getting to where he does not enjoy school at all. He doesn't want to go. Every morning is like Monday. He's in first grade. I've got to figure out something to do there, too...Have I mentioned that being a parent is tough? The good part, though, is his teacher. She's wonderful and I love her. She's so good TO and FOR him. Thank God for great teachers.
I've got so many fires burning right now. My friend Dawn and I are heading up a Relay For Life team at church which will require a ton of attention the upcoming few months. I've been accepted on a design team, which I'll talk about on a later post, and I'm SO excited about that. I'm (im)patiently waiting to hear from a camera company in New York about the possibility of trading in my old DSLR for a Nikon D90 (which, that alone, would probably change my whole attitude). I went last week and joined the YMCA so we can FINALLY start getting out of the house and getting some physical activity, and tomorrow I have to start diabetic classes. Yay. But I tell you all of this, to simply say, I don't want this blog to be a place where I bare my soul, talk about my stresses (you have your own, right?!) and rant. Instead, once these changes take place, I am planning on changing this blog into a more creative one.
That's been my vision for this place all along...but somehow, somewhere down the line, I got sidetracked. Just stay tuned. Hopefully, the next time I post, it'll be with something good. Something positive. Something creative. A new direction...
2 comments:
You are not alone. My son is just 13 and is also going through an attitude stage. It really is hard work but you have to be firm. Your kids may not see it now but in the future they will be so grateful for everything you did for them.
Good luck with everything you have coming up and with the camera.
Looking forward to seeing your craftiness in the future.
Hugs xx
The joys of boys! Mine is almost 13 and on the whole is s good kid & doing well at school and popular (mainly with the girls I'm afraid!!) It's trying to find a balance between being a friend or foe - not always easy. I feel like I am constantly nagging at him - but he is a lot less trouble than the younger one - will have fun with him I think!!
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